Poetry, Play, and the State of the State

First some Font:
“Wound in the Sun”

My dear friend and fellow local writer, Lynn Wallace, has a new book of poetry out, and since I can’t describe the collection any better, here’s a bit about it from the back of the book: “Containing poems written over the last 30 years, “Wound in the Sun,” explores some odd corners, places visited while afflicted with the benign disease of thinking, feeling, and living in the modern age. Each poem is a sun-streaked room somewhere, or an overlooked moon of a bruised and bustling planet, or a comet apt to break apart soon but before doing so will leave a bright vaporous tail that is barely more than nothing.”

That’s a fittingly poetic way to describe this thoughtful, subtle, brilliant work of poetry.

Lynn’s felicity with language sparkles like sunshine dancing on the still surface of a secluded lake, every page shimmering to life, dancing toward illumination.

But that’s not all. So does his intelligence and his insightful observations. Out of a lifetime of honest introspection, Lynn says, “Look at this. Listen to this. See the world through my eyes for a moment.” And what a world it is!

The title of the collection—and the collection itself—calls to mind one of my favorite Latin phrases: Omnes vulnerant, ultima necat: All wound, the last kills.

Legend has it, there’s a how-to manual for the best way to read “Wound in the Sun” that isn’t in print, so I’ll share with you the heart of its instructions here. In brief, it urges that you go outside and lie on your back, doing your best not to move. Know that blood is racing through your veins, the surface of the earth on which you lie is zinging along at several miles per minute, the planet is zipping around the sun at many miles per second, the sun is whirling on this galactic carrousel. Read poems. Lie as still as you are able. Never stare directly at the sun.

There is indeed a wound in the world, in the sun, and one of the best ways to deal with it is by reading. I recommend, “Wound in the Sun.”

When he’s not writing thought-provoking poetry, Lynn serves as an English professor and Director of Developmental Studies at Gulf Coast Community College, where he teaches creative writing, literature & film, and composition while supervising various programs. He had the distinction of being awarded Professor of the Year in 2006.

Lynn will reading from and signing “Wound in the Sun” this Friday, April 24th at Joey’s Coffee in downtown from 5:00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. Please join us.


Now some Film:
“State of Play”

“State of Play” is a well-made thriller with at least two thought-provoking topics, which I’ll get to in a moment. The movie is based on a BBC miniseries I saw a few years back and liked a lot. The series is available on DVD, and watching both it and the American movie it inspired is interesting and instructive. Each has its strengths—the miniseries more time to take a novelistic approach; the movie, slick Hollywood production value and big movie stars. I like the miniseries better, but, to my surprise, the movie was an extremely faithful adaptation. And though the movie has Russell Crowe and Helen Mirren, the miniseries has Kelly Macdonald (one of my very faves) and Billy Nighy.

The story is this: A rising congressman and an investigative journalist get embroiled in a case of seemingly unrelated, brutal murders. The two are old friends and more recent frenemies (yes, there’s a woman involved). The reporter, Cal McCaffery is assigned to sniff out the story and steps into conspiracies and cover-ups that threaten to shake the nation’s power structures. Revelation upon revelation pile up, ultimately bringing to light the corrupt dealings of major corporations and the federal government, and no one is safe when billions of dollars are at stake

The fast-paced “State of Play” works well as a thriller, but where it really excels (and could have done more with) is when it looks at the dangers of Black Water-like private mercenaries for money program and the demise of newspapers, and ultimately, far more tragically, real reporting. These two things—functioning illiteracy and the corruption the love of money brings—perhaps more than anything else, are destroying our culture and way of life.

Not all, but many of the powerful puppet masters pulling the strings behind the anti-government, anti-tax, and separatist movements have profit motives. Their desire to privatize various functions of government is for profit—for them and their close friends. They claim to serve the same Fundamentalist god many of their foot soldier do, but it’s mammon and only mammon they kneel before. And of all the things that can be corrupted by being driven by the bottom line, the most dangerous by far is war. (I realize most wars are fought over money, but here I’m talking about those who fight them.) Soldiers for hire, accountable only to shareholders, is Orwellian in implication, and it’s already here—and the film claims they’re now being used domestically.

I left the theater feeling heavy and saddened by the death of journalism—obviously something I’ve been thinking about long before I saw the movie (which barely touches on it). Every week brings news of another daily shutting its doors, of the end of an era, as advertisers pull their advertising dollars from printed news, where journalism in America is dying a not-so-slow death. It’s a true tragedy, one that threatens our democracy as much as anything else. And it’s not just that professional journalism is in ICU, but more so that people are getting their news from crackpot partisan blowhards meant to bolster what they already believe and comedians who go for a laugh above all else, including the truth, but that We The People have stopped reading.

Thomas Jefferson once remarked, “Were it left to me to decide whether we should have a government without newspapers, or newspapers without a government, I should not hesitate a moment to prefer the latter.”

We are not informed, we are not enlightened because we are not reading. As Mark Twain said, “The man who doesn’t read good books has no advantage over the one you can’t read them.”

Little Miss Sunshines

As I watched the remarkable and resonate “Sunshine Cleaning,” the phrase that kept coming to my mind was “woman’s work.” In our sexist world, where fearful, power-clutching little men do everything from undervalue to actually oppress women (and worse), we have continually been told that certain things are woman’s work. Cleaning, for instance.

“Sunshine Cleaning” is all about woman’s work—and not just in the all-too-obvious way in which it is truly never done, but in that this moving movie about motherlessness and the open, bleeding wounds it causes, was written by a woman, directed by a woman, and features pitch-perfect performances by two talented young women. The work that all these women do is as good as any being done by their male counterparts—and far better in ways only work done by women can be.

Perhaps, moving forward from our shameful sexist past and present, we should, instead of dispensing with the phrase “woman’s work,” use it in the future not as a designation of certain limited and limiting tasks, but to describe the extraordinary quality femininity brings to all forms of labor and creation.

“Sunshine Cleaning,” which might help us take a step toward that end, is the story of Rose Lorkowski (Amy Adams), who finds herself a single mother attempting to support her son Oscar (Jason Spevack) and her unreliable sister Norah (Emily Blunt) while working a mundane job as a maid. Once the head cheerleader in school with plenty of prospects, Rose now has little to show for her years, and while she still sees the former lead football player (Steve Zahn), it is little more than a despondent affair. When Oscar is expelled from public school, Rose takes a job as a bio-hazard crime-scene cleaner to help pay for a private education and brings Norah on to help in her steadily growing business. As the sisters work to clean up the messes left behind by the chaotic lives of others, they must learn to reconcile their own differences and overcome a troubled past if they hope to prosper in their newfound venture.

Though the film is so textured, and has many, many themes, I keep coming back to motherlessness, and see it as not just the emptiness so profoundly felt at the core of the film, but of our time, as well.

I happen to be reading Thomas Dumm’s “Loneliness as a Way of Life” right now, which heightened my experience of “Sunshine Cleaning,” for in using Cordelia and King Lear to explain the current culture of loneliness, he says, “We live in the matrix of the missing mother, in the paradoxical context of no context, in the open world of storms into which we moderns have been cast.”

Perhaps the mother we’re missing most is the one we most need. The loss of the feminine face of God, of the mother hen who wants to gather us like her little chicks, of the compassionate womb who can nurture us in the way only the one who gave birth to us can, causes us far more despair and loneliness and anxiety than we can even fathom.

The film uses an extremely simple, but effective device with a CB radio in which a couple of characters use it to speak into the void—into emptiness, motherlessness, into Job’s whirlwind of isolation and loneliness.

Rose does the woman’s work of cleaning up after others. She cleans up the messes other people make not merely as a maid in rich people’s houses or as a forensic cleaner at crime scenes, but as a woman in life, because it’s generally women who have the strength and grace and will to do so—something deserving of honor not derision. Mostly, Rose is cleaning up the mess her own mother made—mothering herself, her little sister, her young son, and even, to some extent, her own father (a well-intentioned, but often unreliable, mostly lost man played by the extraordinary Alan Arkin).

“Sunshine Cleaning” is a chick flick, not in the normal Hollywood sense when women are attempting to find something ultimately only men can give them, but in the very best sense—one in which a film written and directed by women features women in the strength and vulnerability and beauty and complexity of womanhood. It’s a film only women could make, but one which both men and women should see as soon as they possibly can.

Reading in the Time of Technology

As I write this, I’m seated in my library surrounded by some of my most intimate and long-term companions—thousands of them.

Books are some of the best friends and truest counselors I’ve ever had. They ease my existential anxieties, providing comfort and care. As C. S. Lewis said, “We read to know we’re not alone.” It’s within books that I’m able to get inside the hearts and minds of others, to share life’s journey with them, to be encouraged by the similarities of our struggles, failures, and triumphs.

I have journeyed across the world, vicariously lived a thousand interesting lives—all without ever doing more than turning the page. As Mary Schmich said, “Reading is a discount ticket to everywhere.” But it’s not just that books transport me across the wide world, but that they take me deep into the hidden heart of another human being. “Reading is a means of thinking with another person’s mind; it forces you to stretch your own,” is how Charles Scribner, Jr., says the same thing.

Reading teaches compassion. There is no better way to feel what another feels than to read yourself inside his or her heart and mind. Through reading I have come to appreciate and respect the journey of others no matter how different from my own.

Reading is the truest education—and that of head and heart. I have learned far more outside the classroom than in. The best thing school, especially college, does for us is to teach us how to learn—how to think and how to read. A good education is one that makes us students for life. As Thomas Carlyle said, “What we become depends on what we read after all of the professors have finished with us.”

Reading has changed my life more thoroughly, more profoundly, than anything else save love. And it’s not just me. Books have changed the world.

Now, the world is changing books and reading.

The reasons we read, the reasons we write words and string them together to be read will never change, but the ways in which we read and what is called a book is undergoing a sea change.

What is a book? What is reading?

Many of the books I “read” are actually read to me by professionals. Rarely am I without my ipod and the thousands of unabridged audio books it and Audible.com give me access to.

I realize most people view the ipod as a portable music and movie device, but it’s as a book that it really excels. Thanks to Apple and Audible I’m able to read hundreds more books each year than I would otherwise—listening to them while I drive, work, workout, lie in bed sleeplessly.

The ipod revolutionized the way I read books.

Then, along came Kindle.

Amazon.com’s upgraded ebook reader is amazing.

The versatile devise offers a highly readable display in the size of a paperback, the ability to store and search hundreds of manuscripts, and look up words in an onboard dictionary, on the web, or through Wikipedia. Its free wireless connection to the Amazon Kindle store gives readers access to some 250,000 books (as well as magazines and newspapers)—each able to be downloaded directly to the unit in about sixty seconds.

The Kindle 2—the only Kindle I have experience with—has 2 gigabytes of memory, enough to store more than 1500 books, and has a very powerful built-in battery. The new Kindle lasts four to five days with the wi-fi feature on and up to two weeks with it off. There’s also a very cool new feature that allows you to synch your reading among other Kindles and other mobile devices—meaning you could read 50 pages of my new novel, “Double Exposure” this September, shut off the device, and when you open the Kindle application on your phone later, it will start you on page 50. (Of course, I’m hoping you won’t be able to stop on any page save the last!)

The new Kindle’s “text-to-speech” feature has generated some controversy as authors and publishers fear it will hurt audio book sales, but, trust me, the robotic voice of the computer-generated “reader” coming out of the tiny speakers on the back of the device will not, cannot replace the perfection that is Will Patton reading James Lee Burke’s Dave Robicheaux novels.

My favorite book to read is a handsomely produced hardback, but it’d be foolish to limit my reading experiences to just that.

I live in the rural South, in a small town with no bookstore. Audible.com gives me nearly instant access to thousands of audio books and the Kindle gives me nearly instant access to hundreds of thousands of ebooks. But even if I lived next door to a bookstore, I’d still want these new form books on my ipod and Kindle to be part of my library.

If reading isn’t just entertaining or informational, but transformational, why wouldn’t I read any and every way I can—hardbacks, paperbacks, audio books, ebooks?

The printed book is perfection—the printing press the greatest technological invention of all time—and nothing will ever replace it, but other types of books have their place, which with all the technological advances, of the web, of audio and ebooks, means we’re living in the midst of a reading revolution.

An Extraordinary Chronicler of Ordinary American Life

If you haven’t read John Updike, stop what you’re doing and find one of his books immediately—okay, you can finish this column first, but don’t wait much past that.

If you haven’t discovered Updike, boy, are you in for a treat. If you’ve read Updike, but it’s been a while, rereading a great writer is a pleasure all its own.

And Mr. Updike was a great writer—perhaps the greatest of the second half of the twentieth century. In terms of both quantity and quality, breadth and depth, it seems to me that for this time period, he has no peers.

Sure, other writers are mentioned in the same breath as him—Roth and Bellow among them—but as great they are (particularly Roth for my money), no one quite compares to the last great man of letters. And a man of letters he truly was—extraordinary, prize-winning novels, sophisticated short stories, essays, poetry, memoir, and criticism. When he died two months ago, it was a devastating loss for American letters, but what a legacy he leaves behind.

With a writer like Updike, you can’t go wrong with any of his work, but for this column, I’d like to focus on his collection of short stories.

“The Early Stories,” released in 2003, has been called a harvest, not a winnowing, because it collects nearly all of Updike’s short fiction published between 1954 and 1975. Of the one hundred and three magnificent stories, eighty first appeared in “The New Yorker,” and the other twenty-three in journals from “Atlantic Monthly” to “Harper’s.”

Each story shows Mr. Updike’s capacity for compassion and understanding, his insightful observations, his appreciation for ordinary life, and his extraordinary way with words.

It has been noted that Mr. Updike seemed to spring full fledged as a short story writer, so he can hardly be said to have a body of apprentice work, and this collection of early stories certainly proves this. They are mature masterworks of short form fiction—stories of blistering insight into postwar American life in the suburbs and marital discontent, where backyards and bedrooms are the battlefields of the coldest war of all.

Though all the stories collected here are superior, the following have my highest recommendation: “Killing,” “A & P,” “Pigeon Feathers,” “The Persistence of Desire,” “Snowing in Greenwich Village,” “Gestures,” “Your Lover Just Called,” and “The Bulgarian Poetess.”

Mr. Updike once remarked, “Writers may be disreputable, incorrigible, early to decay, late to bloom, but they dare to go it alone.”

Writing might not be reputable, but Mr. Updike certainly was, which reminds me of what Jake Gittes said about his own disreputable profession: “What I do for a living may not be very reputable, but I am. In this town I’m known as the leper with the most fingers.”

I can picture Mr. Updike, the leper with the most fingers, going at it alone in the writing room he rented above a restaurant in Ipswich, Massachusetts, where he wrote for several hours every morning, six days a week—a schedule he kept throughout his career. He was daring—and brave, and noble, and honest, and insightful, and we, his readers, are the richer for it.

In one of his many autobiographical essays, Mr. Updike identified sex, art, and religion as “the three great secret things” within human experience, and he spent a lifetime daring to tell us his secrets, and in the process, telling us our own.

The Art of Dying

“Synecdoche, New York” is such a devastating, profound, and true masterwork of art I feel unequal to the task of telling you just how extraordinary, rare, stunning, and heartbreaking it really is.

Just two weeks ago, in this very column, I was celebrating the brilliance of Charlie Kaufman, proclaiming “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” to be the brightest object in his creative constellation. Now, after having seen “Synecdoche, New York,” I’m saying that what “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” does for love and memory, “Synecdoche, New York” does for virtually everything else—most notably life, art, meaning, aging, dying, and death.

The thing about life is, we die. That’s it. What does it mean to be human, but that we will one day be no more, and we are aware of it—some of us quite acutely.

When the film’s protagonist, Caden Cotard, tells his cast and crew about the new play he wants to stage, he says, “I’ve been thinking a lot about death lately. That’s what I want to explore. We’re all hurtling toward death, yet here we are for a moment alive, each of us knowing we’re gonna die, each of secretly believing we won’t.”

Claire Keen, one of the female actors, responds, “That’s brilliant . . . It’s everything.”

And though she says it out of a worshipful infatuation with Caden, it’s no less true.

More than any other film I can recall, “Synecdoche, New York” is so rich and multi-layered, its deepest profundity in the subtext, that it seems silly to try to tell what it’s about, but here goes:

Theater director Caden Cotard is mounting a new play. Having won a MacArthur grant, he is determined to create a piece of brutal realism, something he can put his whole self into. He gathers an ensemble cast into a warehouse in Manhattan’s theater district and directs them in a celebration of the mundane, instructing each to live out their constructed lives in a small mockup of the city outside. As the city inside the warehouse grows, Caden's own life veers wildly off the tracks. Populating the cast and crew with doppelgangers, he continually blurs the line between the world of the play and that of his own deteriorating reality.

The title is a play on Schenectady, New York, where part of the film is set. Synecdoche (pronounced si-NEK-duh-kee), from a Greek word meaning “simultaneous understanding,” is a figure of speech in which a term denoting a part of something is used to refer to the whole thing. In the film, the play represents life, and so a part of life represents the whole of life and the New York within the play represents the New York outside the warehouse where it’s being staged.

Does life imitate art? Do we each have doppelgangers wandering around, unseen by us, unknown to us, or, are we all one another’s double—interchangeable in ways we can’t even fathom because of our shared humanity and futility, in that we are alive and soon won’t be? And like Caden’s characters, women are interchangeable with men and vise versa (very Jungian anima/animus), because what we have in common—our mortality—makes us far more alike than not. In Caden’s play, “All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts.”

Even as “Synecdoche, New York” is full of people interacting—some of them intimately—and even though there are doubles and doppelgangers, ultimately, like us, Caden is alone. In addition to everything else, the film, the play within the film, and Caden’s journey, are about loneliness. The characters of the film, the actors in the play—even as they connect and share and become one another—are, like you and me, ultimately, utterly alone.

Just two days after experiencing Caden’s utter aloneness, I found myself alone at a funeral. Over the years, I’ve attended and spoken at a lot of funerals, but this was the only one I ever recall going to and sitting at alone, and as I sat there alone thinking about the birth, life, and death of the person who was alone in the box before me, I couldn’t help but think of Caden, couldn’t help but feel profoundly alone. And yet, having shared Caden’s journey made me less alone somehow—or perhaps made my aloneness more bearable.

“Synecdoche, New York” must be watched multiple times. When you finish it the first time, start it over and watch it again. But even with numerous viewings, we won’t understand everything in the film—and we’re not meant to. Life is mysterious. Art that reflects it, the very kind of brutally truthful art Caden is trying to make, will be mysterious, will be, in many ways, incomprehensible. In life, in art, in religion, there aren’t merely vague unknowns, but specific unknowables.

Though I think artists will likely relate to Caden most, there’s plenty in his journey for everyone—for it’s our journey, the betrayal of us by of our bodies, loss, regret, unrecognized potential, what is never quite living up to what might have been, sickness, suffering, aging, dying, and death.

Perhaps the word “genius” is tossed around too indiscriminately these days, but it fits here. Charlie Kaufman is truly a genius. His work requires us to work and then rewards us greatly for it. “Synecdoche, New York” isn’t just a great film, it’s perhaps one of the greatest films ever made. Like life, “Synecdoche, New York” is heartbreaking and painful, some parts particularly difficult to watch. It’s not an easy film, not easy at all, but it’s a worthy film—worth every moment invested into it. How many movies can you say that about?

Perhaps the greatest compliment I can give this matchless masterpiece of a play within a film is that it evokes within me echoes of the world’s greatest playwright, particularly these haunting, desolate, immortal words that now seem to have been written for Caden Cotard: “All our yesterdays have lighted fools; The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player; That struts and frets his hour upon the stage; And then is heard no more: it is a tale; Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, Signifying nothing.”

Of course, that such words can be written, that such tales can be told argues against the very notion it expresses to signify something. Quite something. And that’s not nothing. In fact, it just might be everything.

Romance and Revelations

First, the film:

Finding a good romantic comedy is nearly as difficult as finding true love. It can be done, but not without some effort. You’ll likely kiss a lot of frogs like Nicholas Sparks before you find a true prince like Richard Curtis.

Did I say Richard Curtis was a prince? My bad. I meant he’s a king. Romantic comedies don’t get any better than “Four Weddings and a Funeral,” “Notting Hill,” and “Love Actually.” But some get closer than others. The best I’ve seen in recent memory is “Definitely, Maybe.”

“Definitely, Maybe” is smart, funny, modern, mature, and even somewhat sophisticated for a romantic comedy (which I realize is like saying someone looks good for their age, but . . . ).

The film is well written, the directing is good, Ryan Reynolds and Abigail Breslin are just fine, but what really elevates it are the powerhouse performances by its three leading ladies Elizabeth Banks, Isla Fisher, and Rachel Weisz. They’re all amazing, but Weisz is particularly beguiling, and Fisher is absolute perfection. In fact, I find Isla Fisher so irresistibly appealing I actually went to see “Confessions of a Shopaholic.” Hey, I’m not proud of it, but there it is—and she’s worth the embarrassment.

Will Hayes has just received divorce papers from his wife at his advertising office in New York City. He picks up his 11-year-old daughter, Maya at school where she has just been taught sex education. Will can’t take these new sex questions that Maya is asking, so agrees to tell her the story about how he met her mother. Will decides to tell Maya a bedtime story in the form of a puzzle with the names changed so she must figure out which of the three loves of his life became his wife and her mother.

There are so many things to love about this movie—as I’ve said, its leading ladies, chief among them. I love Will’s idealism. I love the film’s use of the time period to tether it to realism. Speaking of realism, I love the maturity and modernity of the adult relationships. And, of course, the relationship between dad and daughter—Will’s Maya, like my Meleah (and all our children) are truly the happy endings of all our relationships.

I love to lose myself in a good romance, but I’m of two minds about them. Sometimes I think they are, as others have suggested, a kind of secular scripture, reminding us of the supremacy and life-altering power of love. Others, I fear, the very notion of the more shallow side of romantic love sets up unrealistic expectations and prevents many of us from ever finding the deep-abiding-God-is-love kind of love that is beyond the heady-hysteria-I-love-you-so-much-it’s-retarded kind of romantic love. When the latter leads us to the former, infatuation can be a path to the divine, but if we spend a lifetime chasing the feelings the first blush of desire produces we might completely miss the far more profound, abiding, selfless love we were each created to give and receive.

“Definitely, Maybe” is a good romantic comedy. Is it great? Can it join the company of “Notting Hill” and “Love Actually?” Definitely. Maybe. Definitely. Maybe.

Now, some font:

There’s not much romance in “Nothing Right,” but there’s plenty of revelation.

I’d never read any of Antonya Nelson’s work until I picked up her latest collection of short stories, “Nothing Right” recently, which means I’d been missing out on one of the most brilliant practitioners of short form fiction of our time. Wow.

Simple.

Elegant.

Insightful.

Astonishing.

Set in the American Southwest, the penetratingly and realistically rendered characters in “Nothing Right” try to keep themselves intact as their personal lives implode. A mother and her teenage son finally find common ground when his girlfriend becomes pregnant. A woman leaves her husband and finds herself living with a stranger who is getting extensive plastic surgery while her best friend is dying of cancer. In “Or Else” a man brings his girlfriend to a house he claims belongs to his family, only to have his lie exposed when one of the real owners comes home to scatter her father’s ashes. My two favorites (yes, you can have two favorites) are “Party of One” about a man and a woman having a fight in a bar; and “Biodegradable” about a woman having an affair with a man who reminds her of someone else—of course, both stories are about far more than what they seem to be “about.”

The flawed, frighteningly familiar characters of Nelson’s eleven stories can do nothing right, but perhaps if we read them, become them, we just might be able to. And, if not, at least we’ll know we’re in good company.

The World Forgetting, by the World Forgot

Long before this year of revolution and reading and best actress Oscar, Kate Winslet was Clementine Kruczynski in Charlie Kaufman’s brilliant and altogether original, “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.”

A true genius, Kaufman’s work is always thought-provoking, inspiring, and mystical, but even in such stellar company, “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” stands out as the brightest object in his creative constellation.

Because of its neo-surrealistic elements, non-linear narrative, and its depiction of the degrading memories of its main characters, the film can be challenging, but it’s not inaccessible—and that it requires us to pay attention only adds to its power.

Joel is stunned to discover that his girlfriend Clementine has had her memories of their tumultuous relationship erased. Out of desperation, he contracts the same team to have Clementine removed from his own memory. But as Joel’s memories progressively disappear, he rediscovers their earlier passion. From deep within the recesses of his brain, Joel attempts to escape the procedure. As the team chase him through the maze of his memories, it’s clear that Joel just can’t get Clementine out of his head.

This rich, textured film has many themes, but the persistence of love is chief among them. I say persistence, but perhaps a better word is relentlessness. Maybe this is why the movie resonates with me so much. I believe in love above all else, in its eternal nature, in its relentless pursuit of the beloved. For me, God is love and love is god.

But love isn’t just relentless, it’s also painful. Joel and Clementine get hurt and hurt each other.

Life involves suffering. Love involves pain.

What to do?

The Buddha teaches that she who loves ten has ten woes, he who loves twenty has twenty woes. Jesus, whose teachings mirror those of the Buddha in so many ways, says the same thing, but whereas the Buddha’s solution is to detach and end desire, Jesus says to love all the more—hurt with and for others, open ourselves up to the pain that comes from loving others with the full awareness that this will happen. Be compassionate as God is compassionate—actually feeling what others feel.

Joel and Clementine go to the ultimate extreme to erase their painful memories of one another—one not available to those of us outside a world created by Kaufman—but we’ve certainly become an overly medicated, overly stimulated, overly busy, overly shallow people attempting to avoid or numb pain. Denial. Distraction. Intoxication. What’s our drug of choice to anesthetize ourselves from the unwanted gifts life gives? How many of us would choose to erase painful memories if the technology existed?

Like too many lovers, Joel and Clementine too quickly take each other for granted, grow complacent, but their lack of passion is a personal failing, and not one of the relationship. Like so many, they “fell” in love with the romantic ideal they were projecting onto each other and expected far more from the other than the other has to give. And like so many couples, the very things that initially attract them to each other, later became the very things that repel them.

But there’s an essential sweetness to Joel and Clementine that fits so well with Alexander Pope’s poem that provides the title for the film:

How happy is the blameless vestal's lot!
The world forgetting, by the world forgot.
Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind!
Each pray'r accepted, and each wish resign'd;

For all their flaws, Joel and Clementine are guileless.

Memory is magical—something “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” captures in dense and nuanced ways. And like the film, our memories are continually invading our present moments—informing, influencing, inspiriting.

Love, even our flawed, faulty, fragile love, is worth fighting for. Joel and Clementine realize this. I hope we will. As I watched the two lovers running away from the team trying to erase their memories of one another, I couldn’t help but think about the Song of Songs from the Hebrew Bible, and how its lovers, too, had to flee the city and those hostile to their love into the countryside to be alone.

Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away,
for behold, the winter is past; the rain is over and gone.
The flowers appear on the earth, the time of singing has come.
Arise, my love, and come.

Wether Joel and Clementine realize it, wether you and I realize it, it’s not just our lovers calling to us, but love itself.
Love is relentless. Give in.
Love opens us to pain. Embrace and experience it.
Love is god. God is love. Accept it.
Fight for love as Joel and Clementine do. Move heaven and earth if you have to. What else is worth fighting for?